fence-sitting
Dear Indecisive,
A lot has to be said about careful planning. It helps for one to define a goal and dissect the strategies that need to be done to achieve it. Laying out your options and weighing each one of them based on objective realities could definitely help in figuring out the best course of action to employ. Understand though, that your choice can only be as good as your options. Limit your options to that which society considers safe and mediocre, and you’ll eventually end up with lukewarm decisions; decisions which, although sound and secure, are not the stuff of legends.
Where logic and reason fail, faith, hope and passion follow. Logic may arm you against the known, factorable consequences but it is strength of spirit and the resolute, almost stubborn adherence to your dreams, that would fuel you to shoot for the stars.
Calculating risks and factoring in the unexpected can never be overly stressed. But no matter what one does in foresight to see the bigger picture, one can never really fathom its entire meaning unless done in retrospect. Thus said, grabbing the bull by its horns is the only way to humanize one’s existence. Paint your canvass with splotches of vibrant reds, oranges and yellows and deviate from the somber grays and earthy browns. After all, life was never said to be safe. True, one can always surmise what outcomes may prevail given certain decisions. But life has too many uncertainties to figure out the summations of all these outcomes.
It helps not only to dream, desire and act; I’ve found it more rewarding to learn how to play the cards you’re dealt with the best way you can. Do not be one of angst-ridden twenty-somethings who blame fate, their parents, or their dysfunctional upbringing for their onus. Do not allow the circumstances to manipulate you; manipulate the circumstances to work for you. I’ve always subscribed to the belief that the individual is decisive; he creates his own destiny. Hits and misses are all part of the gamble. But hey, it’s your hits and misses to make. It’s your successes, your failures. It’s your life, own it. Only you could decide how to live it best. After all, life is just plain too short to fuss over stuff that would be immaterial 20 years from now.
And this is the stuff from which life, great novels, and interesting headstones are born.
Rafael
February 3rd, 2006 at 11:05 pm
I wish I could be as witty as Raffy.
But I’m not.
This is pretty wicked stuff he’s got here
I’m won’t be giving my two-cents on whatever’s written in the blog thingy;
My brain has been tying itself in knots from reading and re-reading all of this.
And that is a good thing.
All I’m going to do is give a 3-thumbs up for this supercalifragelisticexpialidocious literary work of art.
Heck, I’ll even give a 10-toes up! Ha! Ther ya go!
I never realized blog reading could be such a sinfully rich experience. Just like having your first bite of blueberry cheesecake after having sex. Hahahaha.
Mahvelous dahling! Pang-oscar! Oscar orbos!
Like what Mrs. Lardizabal from BoysHigh used to say,
Keep it up! (you know what that means! Hahaha!)
February 7th, 2006 at 5:31 pm
as usual…a truly inspiring read.